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COVID 19 Safety Protocol
COVID 19 Safety Protocol
I am currently conducting in-person and teletherapy sessions to meet the varying needs and comfort level of patients.  Synergy is located at Healthways which is a shared space of healthcare... Read more...
Tired of Small Talk? Use These Questions to Generate Better Conversations
Tired of Small Talk? Use These Questions to Generate Better Conversations
Questions to Promote Conversations And Guidelines to Keep Conversations Productive   Questions Who (living or dead) would you like to invite for dinner and why? What would you ask them?... Read more...
Find Your North Star
Find Your North Star
Have you have ever felt adrift in life? Are you uncertain of a decision or direction?  People often walk through my office door seeking clarity to determine a course of... Read more...
Positive tools to boost your wellbeing
Published May 13, 2015 The Royal Gazette - By Heather Wood Lorrie Peniston has a master’s degree in happiness. It’s not something she pulled out of thin air — she earned it from the University of Pennsylvania. Technically, it’s a master’s of applied positive psychology; the scientific study of the strengths that enable people and organisations to flourish in spite of challenges. Mrs Peniston is the only person on the Island who has it. “I say I have a degree in happiness,” the psychotherapist said. “Positive psychology is the science of wellbeing. Traditional psychology... Read more...
There is Still Time to Make the Most of 2018
There is Still Time to Make the Most of 2018
The last day of 2018 is upon us and many collectively question “where did the year go?” Before replacing the old calendar on the wall, take a few minutes to... Read more...
In the Market for a Relationship? Shop Here
About 20 years ago, a friend of mine in the midst of a break-up vowed to make better choices the next time around.  Among other things, she proclaimed she’d never date another smoker.  Yet, less than six months later, she was involved with a man who smoked.  She convinced herself that because he was a “really nice guy who loved kids,” maybe the smoking thing wasn’t as crucial as she had thought. Clients over the years have told me similar stories, confessing:  “I thought his positive qualities would outweigh the... Read more...
Due Diligence Before Saying "I Do"
Love is not enough. Many couples believe that love is the primary factor that prepares you for marriage. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Love is the outcome of a good relationship, which develops over time. Love should not be confused with the intense thoughts, emotions and physiological reactions during the initial phase of relationships. These experiences are chemically induced, not sustainable and ultimately not indicators that you have found your life partner. During this initial romance phase, you and your partner are putting your best foot forward and... Read more...
The Tongue is an Important Sex Organ
"David and Sarah" were therapists who worked together to mend broken relationships. They were a well-functioning couple and suited to share their efficacy with other couples. Or so they thought. Over a decade into their marriage, David and Sarah were having a conversation that changed the nature of their sexual relationship. Sarah asked David, “Why do you stick your tongue in my ear when we make love?” David’s answer was simple and revealing, “Because I always wanted you to do that to me.” A moment of complete clarity and insight... Read more...
How to be Assertive
By Jessie Moniz Hardy - Royal Gazette Published Aug 13, 2013 at 8:00 am (Updated Aug 12, 2013 at 7:25 pm) Psychotherapist Lorrie Peniston: Will teach an assertiveness workshop Got something important to tell the boss, but you just don’t know how to say it? Maybe you want an increase in salary or want to raise a touchy subject. Get some pointers on being assertive at the upcoming Bermuda Professional Women’s Association (BPWA) Power Breakfast with guest speaker psychologist Lorrie Peniston. The theme of the breakfast will be assertive communication... Read more...
Are you ready for a relationship?
As a psychotherapist and relationship expert, I have worked with hundreds of people who are looking for a healthy relationship or navigating through the end of the relationship trying to understand how to get it right the next time.  The mantra, “You have to love yourself before you can find a loving and healthy relationship,” is a common one; however, the pathway to do this is ill-defined. There is not a ‘one size fits all’ for how to build self-respect, confidence and love for self.  But the following ten factors... Read more...
Relationship habits that count
Habits are routines and rituals that provide an important framework in our lives; they can be productive or counterproductive. The routines that exist in life around waking up, getting ready for work or for sleep are acquired patterns of behavior which are consistent and often automatic. Your brain likes habits because it minimizes the amount of thought energy needed to complete a task. Changing habits and developing new pathways is difficult—hence why many resolutions are unsuccessful. The habits you attempt to create or eliminate are often about behaviors related to... Read more...
Better than chocolate and cards
Better than chocolate and cards
Feel free to "appropriate" or "pinch" this idea for yourself: great for a special occastion to celebrate your significant other. Take a container of some sort (I used an old... Read more...